Hurray! Someone has finally done it!
This one is for all the new brides who have gone instantly from congratulations, to when will you be preggers?? We all know what I am talking about, it seems in India, there are two milestones – first comes the wedding, then comes the baby (which if relatives had their way would be immediately after!). The problem is people seem to forget all the breathing space in between these two events that a girl NEEDS! If they are kind enough not to say it, those relatives start their not so subtle speculation and there comes all the pressure! (Which is a LOT coz we have soooooo many of them relatives too!)
Don’t get us wrong, we totally love kids but, what we love more is the right to take this super personal decision without being pressurised/guilt tripped into it by people!
Don’t sweat it ladies, the good F.R.I.E.N.D. that she is, Jennifer Aniston has penned the perfect reply to all your ‘Beta have a baby’ woes! Turns out the actress has been in your shoes a lot with her own version of intrusive Indian Relatives a.k.a Media constantly hounding her on her “pregnancy” or lack thereof!
Aniston finally broke her silence in a way that we can totally get behind! She penned her view in a blog for huffington post and her answer is what every Indian bride has wanted to say!
Aniston starts off by writing, “For the record, I am not pregnant. What I am is fed up. I’m fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of “journalism”, in your case – aunties that just wont quit!
Aniston was most recently reported “pregnant” after photos emerged of her wearing a bikini while vacationing in the Bahamas with husband Justin Theroux. All she had was a food baby post a picnic lunch! (we all have been there! And I know you too are fed up!).
So, here is an excerpt from her post that we’ve adapted for you to use 😛
“The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. The way I am portrayed by
the media some nosy relatives (with good intentions:P) is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty…Is she pregnant? (channelling their inner Bajirao) mastani sahiba’s face has a different noor altogether? Is she eating too much? Is she craving Imli all the time? Has she let herself go? Is her marriage on the rocks because the camera an aunty detects some physical ‘imperfection’?”
She concludes the powerful post by writing, “We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies…We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own ‘happily ever after’ for ourselves.”
And if we like Imlis we have the right to eat as many we want in peace!
You go girl! Truer words were never said!
More power to Jen and to all you girls out there who are tired of dealing with societal pressure on this subject!
Hold your own ladies, its your body, your life and if ONLY when you choose it to be – your time to have a baby!
Read the full post by Aniston on The Huffington Post.