So, you are getting Married! Congratulations! You’ll have a partner in crime, someone to have and hold, to share with your life’s ups and downs and also along with this, share your loo! Wait, What ?!
To begin with, the newly wed version of you both will be Shifty and you will go out of your way to give each other privacy.
*In short, you will be in crazy Denial*
When you have to use the bathroom, he will politely go into the other room, maybe you’ll turn on the water to mask any unsexy sounds (#true stories) Even when indulging in less intimate activities like brushing your teeth or doing makeup, you’ll give each other some personal space, waiting until the other is done to take your turn.
Sounds nice, right? It is! But, sorry to burst your bubble ⚪️📌, it’s a Lot of work and thus, this will not last very long 😰😱😨
To help ease you into this Inevitable ultimate Privacy Pitfall, we reveal what actually will happen :
WHAT WILL HAPPEN IS THIS:
YOU WILL HAVE BOUTS OF INSANE ANNOYANCE…AND THAT’S OKAY
You’re both used to living on your own and that means you are used to different routines, different habits. It’s only natural that some of his habits may be at loggerheads with yours! *Cue in the age old toilet lid debate 🚽*
What to do : We recommend keeping calm, Talking it Out and Carrying On!
YOU WILL GET TERRITORIAL
Eventually you will learn to work around each other and stop creating such conscious gaps of space in the loo. You’ll Subtly mark your own territories without coming out too strong – You are at the end of the day the coy sorta new bride after all!
What to do : If you need something, space even just ask! Your partner is your better HALF, the other half is you. It’s totally OKAY to need space for yourself/stuff!
YOU’LL HAVE TO MAKE SOME ADJUSTMENTS
The only thing worse than sharing the loo, is standing in line! You’ll have to account for a whole other human entity not just using the same washroom but, perhaps even wanting to do so at similar timings as you!
What to do: Create a System pronto. You’ll need an understanding of who showers first and who gets that extra snooze time 💤! We also recommend penning in some creative morning to dos to ensure the steam stays in your relationship!
GOOD COP BAD COP – YOU’LL HAVE A ROUTINE!
One of you is going to be the slob in the relationship and the other the neat freak. It’s okay to be different.
What to do: You’ll figure out soon enough who fits which role. And yes, more often than not, one of you is going to have to pick up after the other. Just remember its not a big deal! It’s NOT about who bent over backwards, but about taking care of each other and your home together 😚
YOU’LL LET YOUR GUARD DOWN AND GET VERY COMFY
There is also something to be said about the intimacy of being comfortable in this private a space as well. Brushing teeth side by side, helping him shave (aren’t these relationship goals movies set forth for us?)
All said and done, when nature calls, you probably don’t bother with running the water now!👏
YOU’LL EMERGE STRONGER AS A COUPLE
At the end of the day just work together and let things ease themselves out. You’ll be just fine 💑
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