When you get Rokoed, the excitement levels are off the charts! Then, reality comes crashing down in the form of MAJOR wedding planning stresses! Don’t get us wrong, planning the wedding, trousseau shopping and multitasking a million things – is all fun. But, it’s the too much too soon wedding work load that sometimes takes away focus from bonding with Bae. Oops! Wouldn’t it be great if in that Indian wedding checklist of yours you had a list of things to do before marriage with your fiancé ? We asked a few real Couples to reveal their courtship checklist with things you MUST do before marriage, so that the honeymoon period lasts forever!

Indian Wedding Checklist  – things to do before marriage with your fiancé ✔️ = 💑

Simply follow these real couples’ Indian Relationship advice and set these goals to a happy marriage 🙂

Phone a friend Fiance

In arranged marriages particularly, the couples don’t get much time together before the roka. Alone time is scarce even after the shy yes! It’s super important you take out time amid all the multitasking to get to know Bae. You won’t just learn about them but will also get over that initial awkwardness! After all, Couples Click on Calls!

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Real Groom Reveals – “ I spoke to my fiancé for the first time (without Family being around) after we got fixed. I won’t say that I got to uncover some very deep secrets, but I did get to know about some of her closest friends and some funny childhood stories. That day I realize she has the same goofy sense of humor as me 😈.”

Dates with Destiny Family

What mine is yours – this couldn’t be more true for Indian Families. No matter how nuclear, the Fambam has the power to nuke a relationship! So, special Indian Relationship advice – Make it a point to hang with each others family and friends as one of the things to do before marriage with your fiancé. Honestly, there’s no bigger turn on than a partner that loves not only you but also  your mains.

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Real Bride Reveals – “Our Family went out for dinner to decide celebrate my to be MIL’s birthday, it was a small intimate dinner that started off a little formal, but once the drinks got rolling, it got hard to control our decibels. I got to know that my MIL is the foodie of the family and they found out that my family is has a ‘healthy’ obsession with the Camera. It was a Super Fun Icebreaker where we got gallizion selfies with Everyone and their Food. That was the moment I knew we didn’t just fit together but were a perfect match. He became my World, and my world became his 💗”

{ Suggested Read: Courtship isn’t a Cake walk. A real bride reveal }

Semi Sexting

Yep! Before you start to blush lets discuss this matter that’s usually so hush-hush. As Indian kids we are soooooo not wired to talk about S.E.X. But girls, if you’re getting a groom, you’re gonna be doing more than sharing a room! You don’t just become intimate overnight, that idea is just not right! Every relationship grows overtime be it emotional or physical. You need subtle, simple and sensible ways for the bond to grow and semi sexting (non nudies) is a fun way to turn awkward to awesome.

{Suggested Read: Fun Flirting – Texting with Emojis}

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Real Bride Reveal- “Me and my fiancé where from different cities, so we were used to texting each other through the days. One day I sent him a picture before going out with my girls. Nothing illicit just a selfie. The first time he texted me an emoji, I was surprised and touched. In time we went from UA Emojis to sexy sassy and funny A rated flirty texts. And this was awesome! A few days into sexting, I got to know, he isn’t as ’Nice, straight Arrow’ as I thought he was. And he got to know that he is not getting a home run before the big day 😜. But, the next time we saw each other, we made out for almost 2 hours straight without ANY awkwardness” **Blush**                                                               

Take a Trip, lets some band aids Rip!

Dates are great, but if you really want to get to know your partner  take a day trip or a mini vacation with Bae. You’ll learn so much about him/her in such close quarters. If you survive that, you’re sorted!

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Real Bride Reveals – “My fiancé’s friend was getting married in Agra and he some how convinced my parents (crazy strict) to let me go with him. During the road trip, we got to know about each other’s horrible music taste, ate tons of junk food (although he tried so hard to be healthy, the crazy gym nut!). And we had THAT super embarrassing conversation a.ka. I need stop to pee over and over again ( It was a long drive, and I drink water when I’m nervous!😁). Although I was mortified then, after the trip I was effortlessly myself with him, as I knew we’re both just as goofy and that’s not something we need to hide. In fact, It’s what made us a great pair!”

Talk about your Future:

Who knows what the future holds, right? But you know what you would like it to hold, tell bae your dreams and goals.  It could be you guys splitting household expenses, you continuing to work, wanting kids asap or later – anything and everything. It’s your combined future now, discuss life goals and how you both can support each other to achieve it.  Lesser surprises = * Fewer future Fails *

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Real Groom Reveal – “I can proudly say my fiancé is f***ing smart and that is one of the things I like about her. She was moving cities for me and leaving her job. She told me she was upset about it and she can’t be a stay at home wife. We talked about her career goals, we decided for our sanity, we can not work together but, instead we actually came up with a plan where I helped her set up her own start up💞.”

Baby Steps, Baby Talk

Ahem! You’re getting married, sharing more than the bed, you better have the baby talk well ahead! While, some people think it’s to premature, we think its downright important! An awkward conversation on birth control and whether you do or don’t want babies will make sure everything stays in control!

Psst! – If you are too embarrassed, go your gynecologist, she will speak for both of you!  (You gotta have the Sex talk before you start the sexy talk!)

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Real Groom Reveals – “We had the baby talk and thankfully neither of us wanted a child too early in. My fiancé told me she is going on the pill, so we can be stress free. She said she’ll have an emergency contraceptive pill if required. Together, we went to her gynaecologist who told us emergency contraceptives were  really bad for her! We decided to wise up and as I promised to always protect her (literally!) and planed a baby when both of us were ready for it. We welcomed our little bundle of joy 3 years later✨💗”

{Suggested Reads : Married Kama Sutra, Hilarious Illustrations of Sex Life After Marriage }

That’s all the Indian Relationship advice for things to do before marriage with your fiancé for today!

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